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Warning Comes Before Destruction: Take Heed

Blessings Fierce Butterflies!

Sometimes in life there are things we go through and we refuse to acknowledge what’s happening. Just the thought of dealing with it cripples us with fear and we allow it to silence us. But, in order to fix any situation we must first acknowledge that the situation exists and that we need help.

Maybe there are signs that something is going wrong in your body and you are afraid to go to the doctor to get it checked out – fear won’t make those signs go away. Perhaps you’re in a domestic violence situation, be it verbal, physical, or emotional – it’s all abuse and it won’t go away on its own; YOU HAVE TO TAKE ACTION and do something about it!

Today, I am used to warn you to take heed to the warnings that God has been sending your way. Take action, trust him to lead, guide and to see you through. Remember this, the choices you make today can determine how you live your tomorrow.

Listen to this message…

Personal Success – Taking Time for Yourself

Making time for yourself is not always easy to do. It seems as though there is never enough hours in one day to get everything done. In the course of one day, we spend on an average 8 hours at work and then return home to manage our daily tasks. Finding time for ourselves seems to be something out of our hands. The key to success however, is learning to make changes that involve relaxation. When your mind and body relaxes, it rewards you with speed. This means you can complete your tasks in a timely manner, giving you additional time to manage everything else that needs your attention.

When you lose control, it can cause major setbacks. Without learning to make time for ourselves, often-depressive symptoms develop. The weight of uncontrolled stress will only add burden to burden. The problem leads to poor decision-making. When we make poor decisions, we often fail. The consequences will increase depressive symptoms. These symptoms linger on, which can cause medical problems to develop. You want to avoid this problem by focusing on you. Instead build self-determination so that you can continue growing, staying strong, and prepared for any challenges you may face.

It only takes a few minutes each day to find time for you. Take some time out for a relaxing tub bath before going to bed at night. Fill your tub with hot water and add some bath crystals. Turn on some relaxing music; lay back, enjoy the music and hot water. Focus on the music or candles that you might want to add to the room. Listen to music and watch the candles. Let the flames beam in your eyes and allow you to travel someone relaxing mentally. Give yourself some time alone to do just for yourself. Start exercising to become healthier and give yourself some time to increase your energy. Create a plan and set goals to keep the exercising exciting and more motivating. It keeps you self-determined and focused on the positive rather than the negative.

You will love the results when you feel the strength you will gain. When you take time out for you, it helps you to clear up clutter so that you make better decisions. Setting goals can help you reach inside to find your purpose. When you have a purpose, it creates a clear path to success. The more you exercise the more you will look forward to it.

MY CHALLENGE TO YOU:

Stop making excuses and take a break… You deserve it!

Until next time…

Coach Renee

TOOLS FOR LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE!

Happy Wednesday Fierce Butterflies!

If you are not satisfied with the life you live, you can change that by living your life on purpose. When you make a decision to take action and live your life on purpose-you will begin to finally live the life you want to live.

Here are a few tools to help you get started:

1. You get to decide how you want to live your life.

It is up to you to do what you want with the life you want to live. You must set goals and work towards them in order to live the life you envision. If you can dream it, you can have it.

kj2. Learn the lessons life has to offer.

Everything that happens to you is to teach you a lesson. Don’t get caught-up in the experience, rather learn the lesson. Otherwise, the experience just may keep repeating itself.

3. Forgive yourself.

Dwelling on past decisions only stagnates your progress in life. Understand that you cannot change what has already happened – forgive yourself, let it go, and move forward.

4. Don’t give up!

Times will get hard in life, but you are not alone. You must remember that tough times don’t last always, but with a will and determination, you can get past whatever comes your way.

Challenge:

Challenge yourself to live your life on purpose.

Blessings,

Renee

 

 

Celebrate Life

Today, I celebrate my 50th Birthday!image

In spite of the ups and downs in my life, nothing was strong enough to stop what God ordained – this day!

This past Saturday, I celebrated with family and friends and we had a freaking BLAST!  I’m still a bit sore from all of the dipping it as low as I could go moves (lol), and from posing for the many photos of the night.  I cannot believe that my husband shared with everyone that I laugh out loud in my sleep! I can’t help but to love that man, but he had to get the side eye on that one. Yes, it was a Night in Paris theme party and I don’t know if they do the soul train line in Paris, but for that night, we had it wrapping around the tables. Oh yeah, it’s a family tradition at every event that the nieces battle the aunties in a dance off, and if you don’t know, now you do because we took them down, as usual.  Age ain’t nothing but a number (hehe haha)!!

Well, I just wanted to stop by and encourage you to celebrate your life.  Not just on your birthday, but EVERY day.  Life is ordained to teach us lessons along the way on our path to freedom.  Yes, it gets rough and bumpy, but God has blessed you to WIN! So, go ahead and LIVE YOUR LIFE LIKE IT”S GOLDEN, because it is.

– Renee

Be Careful What You Ask For!

Rather you want to admit it or not, just about everyone has seen the clips of MiMi Faust and Nikko Smith’s sex tape!

imageI was on social media the other day and saw a video of MiMi on a rampage about keeping our opinions to ourselves because only God can judge her. Well, the truth is, only God can judge us when it comes to our salvation. But, we are the ones who judge one another while here on earth. We should not judge one another in condemnation, but we do judge. You don’t believe me? Go out and commit a crime and tell the law, “only God can you me.” Honey please, let’s see where that gets you. We say that when we want to feel better about the decisions we’ve made, especially when the majority are against that decision.

Mimi from the reality tv show, Love and Hip Hop Atlanta has made the decision to share her shower rod moves with the world and has now gone on the defense about that decision. Mind you, only after she has been tagged as, “desperate.” Yes, I watch the show and I must admit, she is the one I’ve been cheering for to win. I mean, how many of us women can’t relate to her plight. Being in love with a man that won’t do right by us. I’m just sad she made the decision to jump from the pot into the frying pan.

MiMi stands in desperate need for someone to fix her life. There’s nothing wrong with getting help along the way Butterflies! I’m sure she got paid real good for that shower rod act and she’ll be laughing all the way to the bank. But, at some point, the bank is going to close and the reality of this decision is going to sit in. She will have to look herself and her daughter in the face, and she will have to give an account for her actions. I’m still cheering for her and praying for the day when she will make the decision to F.L.Y. (First Love Yourself).

I’ll leave you all with this; there is nothing wrong with pleasing your man, but don’t be so quick to share it with others, they may want a piece of the action.

#AskRenee

Life in the Spotlight!

Anybody who knows me knows that I am a HUGE fan of American contemporary gospel duo Mary Mary. Heck, I even wrote in my book, Let Go and Let God, how their song, Shackles was a favorite of mine during a particularly happy part of my life. So, it should be no surprise that I am a fan of their  Mary Mary Reality TV Show.

In the past couple of weeks, I have watched in shock, yes, I mean eyes as wide as saucers and my jaw to the floor, as Tina has had to endure blow after blow of lies, deceit, and downright scandalous revelations from her husband. I stand in solidarity with Tina Campbell during this, painful and embarrassing time. To add insult to injury, she has to deal with a private matter in the public eyes.  light

I can remember a time in a relationship when I had to deal with this very thing.  I was faithful to him. I was true to him. I did everything I could to be ALL the woman he needed, and yet, he stepped out of our relationship. The blow was devastating!  Friends were telling me about how they were seeing him out in public places with another woman, but with my rose colored glasses, I couldn’t see it.  He didn’t change much of his routine, so I thought there was no truth to it.  Whenever I confronted him about it, of course, he denied it!  It wasn’t until he stopped making love to me that I started to see what others had been telling me.  I figured at that point, something had to be wrong.

Here it was, I was walking around bragging and glowing about a love that no longer existed.  Out on my own, and all alone, I had to explain to family and friends that he had been untrue to our relationship.  Of course, they asked “what happened?”, and I had to look them in their faces and admit, he cheated on me. My perfect relationship wasn’t so perfect after all. Even after all that embarrassment, I was still willing to forgive him and stay in that relationship.  But, I couldn’t let go of the deceit and embarrassment and I found myself becoming that girl.  I was jealous, suspicious, angry, and I knew our relationship would not survive. Eventually, we decided to part ways.

I said all that to say,  life happens to all of us, and we all have our own troubles to deal with.  It’s not always easy to do so, especially when you have to deal with personal struggles while others are watching.  Many of them have their opinion to add, while others use it as an opportunity to point their fingers and laugh. But, sometimes you have to block others out and make the best decision for you.

“Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us!”  Unknown

#AskRenee