Anybody who knows me knows that I am a HUGE fan of American contemporary gospel duo Mary Mary. Heck, I even wrote in my book, Let Go and Let God, how their song, Shackles was a favorite of mine during a particularly happy part of my life. So, it should be no surprise that I am a fan of their Mary Mary Reality TV Show.
In the past couple of weeks, I have watched in shock, yes, I mean eyes as wide as saucers and my jaw to the floor, as Tina has had to endure blow after blow of lies, deceit, and downright scandalous revelations from her husband. I stand in solidarity with Tina Campbell during this, painful and embarrassing time. To add insult to injury, she has to deal with a private matter in the public eyes.
I can remember a time in a relationship when I had to deal with this very thing. I was faithful to him. I was true to him. I did everything I could to be ALL the woman he needed, and yet, he stepped out of our relationship. The blow was devastating! Friends were telling me about how they were seeing him out in public places with another woman, but with my rose colored glasses, I couldn’t see it. He didn’t change much of his routine, so I thought there was no truth to it. Whenever I confronted him about it, of course, he denied it! It wasn’t until he stopped making love to me that I started to see what others had been telling me. I figured at that point, something had to be wrong.
Here it was, I was walking around bragging and glowing about a love that no longer existed. Out on my own, and all alone, I had to explain to family and friends that he had been untrue to our relationship. Of course, they asked “what happened?”, and I had to look them in their faces and admit, he cheated on me. My perfect relationship wasn’t so perfect after all. Even after all that embarrassment, I was still willing to forgive him and stay in that relationship. But, I couldn’t let go of the deceit and embarrassment and I found myself becoming that girl. I was jealous, suspicious, angry, and I knew our relationship would not survive. Eventually, we decided to part ways.
I said all that to say, life happens to all of us, and we all have our own troubles to deal with. It’s not always easy to do so, especially when you have to deal with personal struggles while others are watching. Many of them have their opinion to add, while others use it as an opportunity to point their fingers and laugh. But, sometimes you have to block others out and make the best decision for you.
“Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us!” Unknown