TOOLS FOR LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE!

Happy Wednesday Fierce Butterflies!

If you are not satisfied with the life you live, you can change that by living your life on purpose. When you make a decision to take action and live your life on purpose-you will begin to finally live the life you want to live.

Here are a few tools to help you get started:

1. You get to decide how you want to live your life.

It is up to you to do what you want with the life you want to live. You must set goals and work towards them in order to live the life you envision. If you can dream it, you can have it.

kj2. Learn the lessons life has to offer.

Everything that happens to you is to teach you a lesson. Don’t get caught-up in the experience, rather learn the lesson. Otherwise, the experience just may keep repeating itself.

3. Forgive yourself.

Dwelling on past decisions only stagnates your progress in life. Understand that you cannot change what has already happened – forgive yourself, let it go, and move forward.

4. Don’t give up!

Times will get hard in life, but you are not alone. You must remember that tough times don’t last always, but with a will and determination, you can get past whatever comes your way.

Challenge:

Challenge yourself to live your life on purpose.

Blessings,

Renee

 

 

21 Days of Inspiration

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Hello Fierce Butterflies!

I thought I’d throw in a little twist to how I normally share inspiration to you all. Instead of the day-to-day posts on social media, I am challenging you to participate along with me.

Take some time to sit back, relax, and invest in yourself. That’s right, this challenge is all about you! The goal is to focus on some things that really matter for staying motivated. Focusing on the small stuff each day can be a great way to a lasting change.

Join the challenge and be sure to let us know how you are doing by using #inspirationthroughpurpose.

Day 1. Start a journal.
Day 2. What is your favorite quote? Write it. Read it. Say it out loud.
Day 3. Name seven places you want to visit.
Day 4. Create a bucket list.
Day 5. Post a picture of something that’s on your bucket list.
Day 6. Write a letter to someone.
Day 7. Name at least three of your pet peeves.
Day 8. Think about where you see yourself five years from now, write it down.
Day 9. Smile at a stranger.
Day 10. Set a goal this week and stick to it.
Day 11. Post a picture of something that makes you smile.
Day 12. Post a picture of who or what inspires you.
Day 13. Laugh out loud.
Day 14. Read an inspirational book.
Day 15. Meditate for at least 15 minutes.
Day 16. Name three things you are grateful for.
Day 17. Name a short-term personal goal.
Day 18. Take deep breaths.
Day 19. Do something you know you’ll be great at.
Day 20. Read your bible.
Day 21. Encourage someone.

Blessings,

Renee

Don’t Let the Danglers Dangle You!

Hey there Butterflies!

dangler1Sometimes, I find myself sitting back and laughing out loud at the games people play with one another. Well, this latest chuckle has sparked my writing inspiration for today.

What is my definition of a Dangler? Well, I’m glad you asked. A Dangler is someone who pretends to support you, but they really don’t. They know that something big is about to happen in your life and they want to stay close enough so that their names will be added to your A List. So, here and there, they will shout you out and they may even drop in for a chat or two. No worries, they mean you no harm, they just didn’t learn the lesson on keeping it real.

That’s right, you’re in control. Appreciate the shout outs, welcome the chats, but more importantly, learn your lesson. As my mama use to say, every shut eye aint sleep and every good-bye aint gone.

Spread your wings Butterflies and keep it moving. Let them tag along, but with not strings attached.

@iamreneejones

Be Careful What You Ask For!

Rather you want to admit it or not, just about everyone has seen the clips of MiMi Faust and Nikko Smith’s sex tape!

imageI was on social media the other day and saw a video of MiMi on a rampage about keeping our opinions to ourselves because only God can judge her. Well, the truth is, only God can judge us when it comes to our salvation. But, we are the ones who judge one another while here on earth. We should not judge one another in condemnation, but we do judge. You don’t believe me? Go out and commit a crime and tell the law, “only God can you me.” Honey please, let’s see where that gets you. We say that when we want to feel better about the decisions we’ve made, especially when the majority are against that decision.

Mimi from the reality tv show, Love and Hip Hop Atlanta has made the decision to share her shower rod moves with the world and has now gone on the defense about that decision. Mind you, only after she has been tagged as, “desperate.” Yes, I watch the show and I must admit, she is the one I’ve been cheering for to win. I mean, how many of us women can’t relate to her plight. Being in love with a man that won’t do right by us. I’m just sad she made the decision to jump from the pot into the frying pan.

MiMi stands in desperate need for someone to fix her life. There’s nothing wrong with getting help along the way Butterflies! I’m sure she got paid real good for that shower rod act and she’ll be laughing all the way to the bank. But, at some point, the bank is going to close and the reality of this decision is going to sit in. She will have to look herself and her daughter in the face, and she will have to give an account for her actions. I’m still cheering for her and praying for the day when she will make the decision to F.L.Y. (First Love Yourself).

I’ll leave you all with this; there is nothing wrong with pleasing your man, but don’t be so quick to share it with others, they may want a piece of the action.

#AskRenee

Life in the Spotlight!

Anybody who knows me knows that I am a HUGE fan of American contemporary gospel duo Mary Mary. Heck, I even wrote in my book, Let Go and Let God, how their song, Shackles was a favorite of mine during a particularly happy part of my life. So, it should be no surprise that I am a fan of their  Mary Mary Reality TV Show.

In the past couple of weeks, I have watched in shock, yes, I mean eyes as wide as saucers and my jaw to the floor, as Tina has had to endure blow after blow of lies, deceit, and downright scandalous revelations from her husband. I stand in solidarity with Tina Campbell during this, painful and embarrassing time. To add insult to injury, she has to deal with a private matter in the public eyes.  light

I can remember a time in a relationship when I had to deal with this very thing.  I was faithful to him. I was true to him. I did everything I could to be ALL the woman he needed, and yet, he stepped out of our relationship. The blow was devastating!  Friends were telling me about how they were seeing him out in public places with another woman, but with my rose colored glasses, I couldn’t see it.  He didn’t change much of his routine, so I thought there was no truth to it.  Whenever I confronted him about it, of course, he denied it!  It wasn’t until he stopped making love to me that I started to see what others had been telling me.  I figured at that point, something had to be wrong.

Here it was, I was walking around bragging and glowing about a love that no longer existed.  Out on my own, and all alone, I had to explain to family and friends that he had been untrue to our relationship.  Of course, they asked “what happened?”, and I had to look them in their faces and admit, he cheated on me. My perfect relationship wasn’t so perfect after all. Even after all that embarrassment, I was still willing to forgive him and stay in that relationship.  But, I couldn’t let go of the deceit and embarrassment and I found myself becoming that girl.  I was jealous, suspicious, angry, and I knew our relationship would not survive. Eventually, we decided to part ways.

I said all that to say,  life happens to all of us, and we all have our own troubles to deal with.  It’s not always easy to do so, especially when you have to deal with personal struggles while others are watching.  Many of them have their opinion to add, while others use it as an opportunity to point their fingers and laugh. But, sometimes you have to block others out and make the best decision for you.

“Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us!”  Unknown

#AskRenee

Black Love!

Allow me to take a moment to chat with all of my Black Butterflies. Black Butterfly

When are we going to get it? When will enough be enough?  Lately, I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster with all of the racial issues that has been on the rise over the past few years. Especially, when it comes to the, “Stand your ground” law. The cases that are highlighted in the media should be cut and dry and guilty on all charges.  There has been no justice and as a mother of a murdered son, I will continue to pray for the families of KiJuan Byrd, Trayvon Martin, Jordan Davis and all others that has experienced this great pain of losing a child.

My issues here are coming from a different place and I have a question to ask my black people.  When are we going to stand our ground and love, respect and support one another?  Even the word of God shares with us that a house divided against itself, that house cannot stand (Mark 3:25).  So, why are we looking for respect from others when we are not giving it to ourselves. When we think about how other nationalities are treated in this country, our main focus becomes, we are being treated unfairly.  The truth is that the other nationalities stick together and if you come against one, you will have to come against them all.  When they do wrong against us, they don’t think twice about their consequences because they know that we will jump on the bandwagon and rise up for the moment, but then back to cutting one another down after the smoke has cleared.  Now, calm down because I know this does not apply to all of us, but we must admit that we still have a ways to go and it should start and end with us.

We should not look for something from others that we are not willing to give to ourselves.  Love! Respect! Support!

Renee

 

 

Don’t Be A Storm Chaser!

What’s up Butterflies?

I was just sitting here and thinking to myself, some of us sit in front of the television and watch Storm Chasers chase after tornadoes and fly in the eye of hurricanes and we think to ourselves, they must be crazy.  But, in life drama is as dangerous as a storm and some of us chase it every day.

Image21-400x400You all know the saying, “Don’t start no drama and it won’t be no drama.” Well, it is evident that not everyone has gotten that memo because there is drama everywhere.  Drama in the church. Drama in the office. Drama in the home. Heck, there’s even drama on social media.

It takes two elements to set the drama scene: A running mouth of other people’s business; and a listening ear to gossip.  I know, I get it because there are some things that go down in our lives as well as in the lives of others that just make us want to run and tell it. But, that doesn’t make it right.

When jumping in other people’s business, half the time we are making assumptions about the situation and we all know that assumptions make a fool out of the one who is assuming.  The other half of the time, we are listening to what others say they heard someone else say. Do you see how crazy that is? The rules are simple, yet many of us make it complicated.  If we have nothing good to say, then we need keep it moving.  Think about it, when you are dealing with drama in your life you want compassion and prayer, not more drama.

So, how do we fix this?  If we are not there to make the situation better for others then we need to stay out of it.  Also, we need to avoid the drama queens.   Those are the ones who do nothing but look for drama and when they can’t find it, they create it.  They are the first ones to deliver bad news and the last ones to share the good news.  We all have enough to deal with in our own lives and to be caught up in others people’s business makes no sense.

Since we all can use help in this area, join me in asking the Lord to help us to be a better person and stay drama free.  It will free us to live a happier and more productive life.

#AskRenee

 

Shattered Dreams!

imageWhat’s up Butterflies?

Have you ever had to deal with people who do nothing but drain you and keep you frustrated, even when you’re trying to help them? Yeah, I’m sure you have. I’m coming to understand, they are not the problem, we are.

It’s okay for us to help and support others, but if we have to chase them down, beg and plead to support them, then we need to move on.

I was speaking with someone not long ago and I asked, “Do you believe in me?” I thought I was going to get a simple reply, but in return they turned the table on me. They responded, “Of course I believe in you, but it sounds like you’ve lost confidence in yourself.” What? Now, how was I to be mad at that when I knew it was the truth.

You see, for the past two years I’ve been wasting time, money and energy on things and people that I was supporting but was not supporting me. What I didn’t realize is that it had started affecting my confidence. I figured, since I kept hitting a brick wall then the problem had to be with me and my vision. Yeah, for a quick minute I became that girl who allowed others to rain on my parade… I’m back (lol) and now stronger than ever.

Who are you around? Who are you sharing your dreams with? Who are you supporting? Who is supporting you? I tell you Butterflies, you better ask these questions and get them answered up front because it will save you lots of time, money and energy. #AskRenee! But most importantly, it will keep you moving in the right direction, eliminate a lot of frustrations as well as keep your confidence level up. If you haven’t done so in a while, pull out your radar, do a crowd check and don’t be afraid to zap those dream snatchers out of your way and move on. When you do that, you’ll make room to attract the motivational movers and your true supporters around you.

Nope, I’m not mad nor am I rambling, I’m just keeping it real, letting go of the experiences and sharing my lessons.

Until the next time have faith, believe in yourself and keep your mind right.

Renee