Be Intentional With Your Vision

Do you have a vision for your life? Did you accomplish your goals yet? Are you waiting for the right time? Do you think they will materialize by their own?

What if I tell you, to become successful in your vision you need to be intentional. Being intentional to succeed, to reach your goal, to accomplish your desires; in short to get anything you want.

Get out of your comfort zone, now!

Get out of that ‘Time will make the things work for me’ type of attitude. Decide to be intentional rather than circumstantial or habitual.

Once said by the Sir Isaac Newton ‘every action has an equal and opposite reaction.’ That simply means every reaction on earth needs action, they never appear magically.

Decide to take small initiatives to effectuate your vision. Don’t be unwavering, try to learn and implement new things. Try to practice new approaches instead of old working habits. Be determined towards your work and bounce off the obstacles of your way.

Be Intentional

Decide your vision. It can be your vision for this year, next year or for many upcoming years. Now pen down your vision, on notebook, calendar, wall or mirror and make sure to face these visions and goals every single day until you achieve them.

Plan of Action

There is no magical wand that can turn your dreams into reality by flicking it here and there a few times. You can’t achieve your goals magically. Same as you need a proper map to reach a destination ‘You need a full proof plan to effectuate your journey towards the goal.’

Make sure to follow your plan each day. There is nothing like tomorrow. ‘Delete the word tomorrow from your mind’. It’s now or never, you need to perform the planned activities every single day.

Track Your Progress

Every action counts. Keep a track record of things you have done. Track your progress every month. You will definitely face some failures on your way to achieve your vision. But, temporary failures are just to solidify your intentions.

Look at the little things you implement everyday that form a chain and drive you towards your targeted vision. If you focus to make continuous small and positive efforts you will slowly crawl towards your vision without getting de-motivated with the bigger picture!

Until next time…

How to Manage Your Time Wisely

Time sure flies fast. We are often left feeling as if the day went by in the blink of an eye. I think that the key to a balanced life is to manage your time wisely. We each have 24 hours in a day. It is up to us to make the most of them.

If you find yourself hassled and clueless at the end of each day, this blog is definitely for you. Read on to know some simple ways to manage your day well.

Prioritize

Don’t go charging at the day’s tasks all at once. Each morning when you wake up, give five minutes to yourself. Think about the tasks that need to be done that day. You can also jot down a “Get it Done” list while enjoying your morning cup of coffee or tea. You can also try making the list the night before.

Making a list of the tasks will help you understand which one needs your attention first. It is a good way to plan your day especially if you need to go out. Knowing the tasks ahead will help you manouver through your day more smoothly.

Understand Your Tasks

Once you have written down or made a mental note of the things that need to be done, it is a good thing to really understand how much time each task is likely to take. Factor in the time it will take to travel to and from places, traffic, etc if you need to go out.

We often underestimate the time that a single task can take. This throws a spinner in the works for the whole day and we are left feeling irritable. So, really think about how much time the day’s work is likely to take. That way you won’t be left feeling out of depths at the end of it all.

Get Help

You cannot do everything yourself. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Ask for help when you need it. Getting help with chores is likely to help you complete the work much faster.

Besides, having someone to help you out is also a way to fight boredom. When you are having fun, it is less likely to seem like an overwhelming hurdle.

Know Your Limits

Don’t spread yourself thin trying to do everything. Know what you can and cannot do. There is nothing to feel bad about if you cannot do something. It is absolutely okay to say no.

People who are aware of their physical and mental limits are far better organized than those who don’t. In order to manage your time wisely know yourself first.

Avoid Distractions

In today’s world of multimedia distractions are aplenty. You start out searching for a recipe and find yourself reading about every celebrity that hit the red carpet two hours later!

Track self-induced distractions and try to avoid them. Reduce the time spent on your smartphone and social media. It may prove to be difficult in the beginning, but trust me it is worth the sacrifice.

Take Care of Yourself

Look after yourself well. Being physically and mentally alert will help you manage your time much better. When you are free of laziness you are more productive.

Sleep well and eat a balanced and healthy diet. Ensure frequent rests during the day to avoid exhaustion.

Time is precious. That is why it is so important to manage it wisely. Once you start consciously the way forward only gets better.

Until next time…

 

How to Activate Your Vision and Make Your Dreams a Reality!

Blessings Fierce Butterfly,

Every one of us has a dream in our life but somehow we are stuck up in a reality that is far away from the dream that we want to achieve. As a result, a good number of us are frustrated with life and have given up the hope of achieving what we had always wanted. But, would you believe me if I told you that you are the only one that is blocking the path to realizing your dream by letting negativity and frustration cloud your vision?

If you are thinking that nothing is going to happen in your life then trust me, the universe is going to make sure that nothing happens in your life. However, if you follow a few tips then you can easily activate your vision and take a step towards the realization of your dreams.

HAVE CLARITY OF VISION

The first step you need to take is to bring clarity to your vision. Most people have an obscure idea as to what they want from life in the first place. Just wanting to be rich or successful is not enough. You have to know exactly how rich you want to be and how can you achieve that.

Clarity of vision not only lets you know about what you want from life but also helps to send signals into the universe which activates your vision. You have to know what you want otherwise how else the universe would know what you want from life.

DISPLAY YOUR VISION STRONGLY

The second thing that you need to do in order to make the universe quite clear as to what you want is to display your vision somewhere. What you can do is write down your vision on a paper and keep it at a place where you can see it first thing in the morning. Writing down the vision sends a very powerful trigger to the universe.

Moreover, looking at it every morning will reinforce your vision and will help you to achieve it as soon as possible.

BRING POSITIVITY INTO YOUR LIFE

The next step you need to take is to bring some positivity into your life. Keep thinking in positive terms as to how you will realize your vision at last. Under no circumstances should you let yourself to feel negative or think that nothing will work out.

Always remember you bring what you think. If you think with positivity you will bring positivity in your life and vice verse. Write down positive words in your diary and encourage yourself. The more you affirm your vision with positivity, the more are your chances of realizing it.

MEDITATE EVERY MORNING

This is a very powerful way of activating your vision. Always remember that feeling humble and having gratitude are the two most potent ways in which you can get closer to the universe. So pray and meditate every morning.

Thank the universe for the little moments of joy that you have managed to achieve so far. Express gratefulness for feeling positive and happy at this moment.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE

Remember that negative people can bring negativity in your life too. You do not need such people in your life. Instead surround yourself with loving folks who are supportive of your dreams and will guide you in achieving them. You can also get a coach or a mentor who will help you to realize your dreams and with whom you can share your success.

So, follow the mantra of staying positive and achieving your dreams.

What areas do you want to achieve a transformation? Send me an email at info@iamreneejones.com, I would love to help.

Previous Blog: The Benefits of Morning Meditation

Until next time…

The Benefits of Morning Meditation

Mоrning mеditаtiоn is ѕuсh a kеу раrt оf оur dау. We wаnt tо lооk аt it tоgеthеr аnd еxрlоrе how we саn mаkе it аn inсrеdiblе, trаnѕfоrming еxреriеnсе ѕо that оur dау can gо well each аnd еvеrу dау.

When we firѕt wаkе up in thе mоrning, wе hаvе есhоеѕ of thе previous night; echoes оf оur dreams that often rеѕоnаtе with uѕ whеn wе first wаkе uр. If you’ve hаd a restful, peaceful night of ѕlеер bесаuѕе уоu mеditаtеd thе night bеfоrе, thеn уоu will рrоbаblу wаkе up rеѕtеd and саlm. If уоu wеnt tо bеd ѕtrеѕѕеd, wоrriеd аnd уоur drеаmѕ reflected that experience, thеn уоu will рrоbаblу wаkе up nоt very rested and bеginning the dау with worries and fеаrѕ.

What can really bе hеlрful iѕ to сhаngе your mоrning еxреriеnсе into ѕоmеthing роѕitivе, hеаlthу аnd intо something that саn help you throughout thе dау. Here аrе ѕоmе ѕtерѕ thаt is highly recommended that уоu can imрlеmеnt еvеrу mоrning ѕо that уоu саn hаvе a beautiful morning with a wоndеrful experience each аnd еvеrу dау. Of course, you mау nоt be able tо dо them right аwау, or уоu mау choose tо make ѕоmе changes аnd work towards having a beautiful, wоndеrful morning еvеrу dау. It tаkеѕ time and еffоrt tо implement these сhаngеѕ, аnd many оf uѕ аrе vеrу, very buѕу. It’ѕ uр tо you hоw you аррrоасh it, but еithеr way, you will bеnеfit from bеginning your day in a more positive way bу implementing thеѕе techniques.

Health Bеnеfitѕ

Primarily, mеditаtiоn invоlvеѕ the inwаrd рrосеѕѕ of trаining оnе’ѕ mind in оrdеr tо rеаlizе ѕоmе bеnеfit. It iѕ аn art tо bе learned in оrdеr tо bring the bоdу into a ѕtаtе оf relaxation аnd the mind intо a ѕtаtе оf highеr consciousness.

It iѕ so simple, yet реорlе tend to resist thе рrасtiсе due tо vаriоuѕ reasons. Probably thе biggest rеаѕоn реорlе dо nоt practice mеditаtiоn is thаt thеу are ѕо inсlinеd tо “do,” thеу саnnоt juѕt ѕit аnd “nоt do.” To ѕit with уоurѕеlf fоr a fеw minutеѕ each dау brеаthing dеер аnd rеlаxing ѕоundѕ ѕо ѕimрlе, but уеt multitudes сhооѕе nоt tо tаkе advantage оf thе benefits of mеditаtiоn.

Not only саn meditation help a реrѕоn mentally, but it саn аlѕо bring about numerous health benefits tо реорlе, еѕресiаllу when рrасtiсеd in thе morning. Morning meditation is tурiсаllу more powerful as thе mind tеndѕ tо bе calmer and clearer in thе mоrning and bу рrасtiсing mеditаtiоn in the еаrlу morning, it bесоmеѕ еаѕiеr tо clear thе mind and gain a nеw реrѕресtivе for the dау. It sets уоur vibrаtiоn fоr thе day ԛuitе wеll аnd many who рrасtiсе mеditаtiоn in thе morning will tell уоu thаt thеir dауѕ gо bеttеr.

There are numеrоuѕ ways tо рrасtiсе morning mеditаtiоn, and thеrе are kеу mеditаtiоn benefits as wеll. Thеѕе include:

YоgаThis method controls the brеаthing аnd also аugmеntѕ thе body flеxibilitу.

Prауеr Thе most widеlу рrасtiсеd method thаt involves ѕауing рrауеrѕ.

Rеflесtiоn Mеditаtiоn thrоugh written оr ѕроkеn wоrd.

Wаlking A highlу еffесtivе mеthоd uѕing рhуѕiсаl еxеrсiѕе tо fосuѕ thoughts.

Bеnеfitѕ оf Mеditаtiоn

Arе уоu rеаdу to соmmit tо thiѕ ancient рrасtiсе? Dо уоu think уоu can ѕраrе a few minutes еvеrу mоrning fоr some “you” timе? If so, it will take a commitment on your раrt, bесаuѕе most mornings уоu won’t “fееl” like sitting ѕtill аnd сlеаring уоur mind. Usually, аѕ soon аѕ уоu аwаkе уоu аrе geared toward thinking about аll оf thе things уоu muѕt dо thаt dау оr bеgin wоrrуing about уоur рrоblеmѕ.

Morning meditation provides thе fоllоwing bеnеfitѕ:

  • Hеlрѕ in building skills to tackle ѕtrеѕѕ.
  • It рrоmоtеѕ ѕеlf-аwаrеnеѕѕ.
  • It aids in rеduсing negative thoughts.
  • It enables people tо decide оn their gоаlѕ and intеntiоnѕ for thе раrtiсulаr dау and аlѕо hеlрѕ them ѕtау fосuѕеd in order tо асhiеvе them.
  • Prоvidеѕ rеliеf fоr people hаving an illnеѕѕ caused bу stress аnd tеnѕiоn.
  • It hеlрѕ to overcome problems оf аllеrgiеѕ, asthma, anxiety disorders, fаtiguе, mеntаl depression, inсrеаѕеd blооd pressure levels аnd inѕоmniа.

If уоu happen tо bе in a сlimаtе thаt iѕ wаrm, consider dоing уоur mоrning mеditаtiоn оutѕidе. Hеаring the birdѕ sing and ѕmеlling thе wonderful frаgrаnсе оf nature аidѕ in calming thе body аnd mind. Bеing оut in nаturе iѕ thеrареutiс in and оf itѕеlf, so соnѕidеr gеtting оut as muсh аѕ you can to tаkе in all оf thе beauty аnd peace.

Thе benefits оf mеditаtiоn аrе dеfinitеlу wоrth the time аnd effort. In fасt, with ѕuсh extensive benefits and a vеrу ѕimрlе technique, mоrning mеditаtiоn is trulу a соmрrеhеnѕivе ѕоlutiоn fоr реорlе еxреriеnсing high levels оf mеntаl tension and stress аnd vеrу helpful fоr bесоming more enlightened. Cоmmit to juѕt a fеw minutеѕ a dау, tо bеgin with. Yоu will find уоurѕеlf еnjоуing the рrасtiсе more аnd mоrе and еvеn look fоrwаrd tо thе time each morning.

Until next time,

Creating Your Own Destiny

Let me begin by explaining; I’m not necessarily saying that I believe in magic!  But I do want to draw your attention to a much researched and proven occurrence.

When we focus on the good, we receive more of it.

I’m talking about gratitude.  And this is not just something that life coaches believe, there is actually a great deal of psychological research on this.

In his book, The Fortune Factor, Professor Richard Wiseman shares results from his own studies which confirm that people effectively ‘make their own fortune’.  And what it all boils down to is where somebody focuses his or her attention.

You might wonder what the term ‘gratitude’ really means?  I’ve heard some people define it as appreciating all the good things in the world, or being thankful for what they do have.  And that’s a good place to start.  But I believe there is more to it.

For me, gratitude is a daily practice, perhaps a little like a prayer.  It’s about choosing to see the good in things and having a positive attitude.  When you start focusing on this daily, your world starts to change around you.  It really can feel as though you are creating your own destiny. 

Here’s the science!

We know from cognitive psychology research that the brain can’t attend to everything going on in the world around us.  With the exception of spotting sudden danger, our brain focuses on what we have primed it to focus on.

A really simple example of this is when you have your heart set on a particular model of car.  Once you have set yourself that goal, suddenly you seem to notice that exact car everywhere you go.

It might seem a little spooky that suddenly everybody is driving your dream car.  But of course, that’s not really what’s going in.  Nothing changed ‘out there’ in the world; the change was in your brain.  You are primed to notice that car more, and so notice it more you do.

This phenomenon is known by psychologists as ‘reticular activation’, named after the tiny part of the brain stem implicated in this focused attention.  For a tiny part of the brain stem, it sure has a powerful effect on us!

So where do good fortune and gratitude come in?

Thanks to our reticular activating system, we see more of what we are focused on.  So if we set our intention everyday to be positive and grateful, always seeing the best in things, how do you think that manifests for us?  Right!  And this is exactly where the feeling of creating our own destiny comes from.

But the process doesn’t end in our minds; it carries across to the outside world too.  While our brains are busy creating our own destiny, our positive disposition is allowing us to engage more with new situations.  We meet new people, perform better at that job interview, we have more fun on that first date…. The possibilities are endless!

Some tools to help you get started.

So let’s talk about making this work for you.  My favorite tool is my gratitude journal.  And lots of people love this one!

The physical act of writing down something you are grateful for every morning starts your day off on the right foot, and really primes your brain for a good day.

Popular personal development writer, Brendon Burchard, recommends setting a gratitude alarm on your phone that goes off three times a day!  You might prefer to start with once per day and try building it up, so it’s not too much all at once.

Or how about a daily walk?  We know that gentle exercise release those ‘feel good’ chemicals in the brain, so that should help you with feeling grateful.  Get outside, stretch your legs and take in some nature.  It’s good for your soul!

If you would like to talk with me one-on-one about shifting your mindset to a more grateful and positive one, then reach out to me via email at info@iamreneejones.com

I’d love to help you on your way to creating your own destiny.

3 Ways to Declutter Your Life

So we are already a few months into 2017.  My goodness, where is the time going?

If you are feeling like it’s not all panning out to be the kick-butt year you had hoped for, then let’s get you back on track!

Spring is just around the corner, and as the flowers start to bloom and the days get a little longer, we can all benefit from the new energy this brings.

But it’s not all down to Mother Nature.  She plays her part, but nobody has power over our lives like we do.  So it’s time to remind yourself that YOU are the captain of your own ship, and you can steer it in any direction you choose.

Decluttering your life is an excellent way to simplify things, manage your time better, and take back some control.

So let’s talk strategy – here are 3 simple ways to kick yourself into gear.

1. Ditch Negative People

We’ve all got those old friends that you stay in contact with because you’ve known them for years, but you’re actually unsure how much value they add to your life.  Perhaps you feel that they bring you down a bit.  We might feel a bit bad admitting that to ourselves, but you know what, it’s okay to call it like it is.

Sometimes we outgrow friendships.  If you find yourself not looking forward to spending time with certain people, perhaps because they have a negative attitude or don’t support you in your goals, then it’s okay to let them go.

It’s important for you to invest your time with people that lift you up and tell you to shoot past the stars.   Go and find your tribe!

2. Clear Up Your To-Do List

Is there too much on your to-do list?  Perhaps there is also too much going on in your mind?  Clutter leads to overwhelm, so just take a step back and get your thoughts and your to-dos in order.

Firstly, empty your mind onto paper.  When you try to hold too much in your working memory, your brain has less capacity to problem-solve.  Get it down on paper so you can’t lose it, and then let your mind relax and work how it’s supposed to.

Next, organize the paper lists.  Prioritize the things that are more pressing, and plan the longer-term and less urgent things ahead in your calendar.

Doesn’t that feel better?

3. Eliminate Idle Talk

If you find you are spending a good amount of your time locked into unproductive conversations, then you need to adjust your priorities.

Catching up on the latest ‘office news’ by the water cooler can quickly turn from a two-minute break into a long procrastination session.  By all means take a little break here and there, but just be careful to not lose hours of your precious time on unproductive activities.

You have goals and dreams to be working on, so keep your eyes on the prize!  Your life will become more productive by spending your time working on achieving those goals.  And at the end of the day you will be more satisfied with your achievements, which is a great feeling.

Would you like to go deeper on this and really take control of your year?  I’m excited to work with you, so reach out to me and let’s talk about rocking your 2017.

Email me at info@reneejones.com and tell me what you would love to work on.  I’m waiting to hear from you.

Practical Tips for a Well-Balanced Life

I think that balance is something we all aspire to have.  But for many of us it can feel so out of reach.  Time races by and we find ourselves asking, “Where has the day gone?”

If you can’t remember that last time you felt truly grounded and peaceful, then this blog post is absolutely for you.  We all need to catch our breath sometimes, look around us and remember to live, not to just survive.

Living a happy life is about enjoying each day.  Even just those brief little moments that make you smile.  They all add up and are so worth being present for.  So here are some practical tips to bring balance back into your life.

Past, Present and Future

Psychologists tell us that most people spend the vast majority of their waking time either re-living the past or anticipating the future.  Very few of us enjoy the present moment fully.

Being present and mindful is a skill; it doesn’t come very naturally to us, trust me, I know.  But I do think it is worth trying to be present when we can.  Especially when we are stressed; stopping and smelling the roses for just a few minutes can really refocus and calm us.  When we are not present and are rushing around, we miss so much of the world!

You can’t take anything from this world with you at the end of your life.  What we have here on earth is to be enjoyed in the present.

Do you have children or any pets?  Children and animals are great mindfulness practitioners.  Have you ever noticed how kids get completely lost in the present moment when they are playing?  Or how about the way a cat or dog just stops and notices things around them?

It looks so peaceful – so have you tried it yourself?  It might sound a bit unlikely in our mile-a-minute society, but if you try it I promise it will not disappoint.

Work and Play

I know people who never give themselves a whole day off.  This is often because they feel guilty when they stop, and sometimes because they don’t even know how to stop.

A well-balanced life calls for a bit of give and take.  When you’ve been giving a lot of yourself to your job or other commitments, it is completely fine to take back some time for yourself and just rest.

And how about play time?  Yes, I’m serious.  Grown ups are allowed to have fun too!  See if you can remember the last time you rode a bike or threw a ball… If you can’t remember then it’s time to book some playtime into your diary.

Fun is a huge stress reliever and so undervalued in our society.  It sometimes seems like the world is telling us to work until we can work no more, and then go into therapy to undo the damage!  Hmm… How about we just look after ourselves a little better now?  Let’s pre-empt the burn out before it happens.

Famine or Feast

Do you enjoy food?  Maybe you rush through meal times, or maybe you feel guilty for breaking your diet.  Let me suggest a little balance in this area too.  Family dinnertime is so much more than refueling our bodies.  It’s about connecting with our loved ones in a shared experience.

When you have been busy all day, you can put that phone down for 30 minutes and be present with your family.  And please don’t beat yourself up for eating something ‘bad for you’.

Moderation means having a bit of both, and enjoying it too.  And as Garfield once pointed out; diet has the word ‘die’ in it. A balanced approach to food is more sustainable long-term than a harsh, restrictive diet.

More often than not, your body tells you what it needs.  We just need to learn to listen.  When our lives are in balance and we are more present, then listening becomes so much easier.

I think that achieving a sense of balance comes down to the old analogy of the oxygen mask in the plane.

You know when you are taking a flight, and the safety announcement tells you that in the event of an emergency you must fasten your own oxygen mask before attempting to help others?

This is a well-used comparison to life in general because it is so relatable.  If you don’t look after yourself, then you can’t take care of your loved ones, or your job for that matter.  Finding balance is really the key here.

Why not come over to my Facebook page for more tips and little reminders.  I would love to see you there!

ONE DAY AT A TIME!

I can’t believe it’s been five years since my son has passed away. Every year since then on October 31 – the day of his passing, I’ve tried to make sense of it all, but to no avail. This year, my therapist gave me an assignment… instead of focusing on the pain and sadness of the tragedy, take a moment and think of a good memory of your son and allow that memory to get you through the sadness of that day.

After Trevin’s passing, my husband and I made the decision to donate our son’s organs. Later on, we found out that Life Alliance Organ Recovery Agency was able to secure four of his organs for transplant: heart, kidney, pancreas, and his liver…

This past April, as bittersweet as it was, we had the pleasure of meeting the man who now lives with our son’s heart, Papa Don. Since meeting, we have developed an amazing bonding relationship, not just with him, but his family as well. No one will ever be able to take Trevin’s place in my heart, but instead of focusing on his passing, I choose to focus on the lives he saved in his passing.

Renee Jones and Donald Anacker

Prayerfully, I will have the pleasure of meeting the recipients one day soon.

I can’t wait to visit my therapist later this week and share how this assignment has helped me to cope. One day at a time, one day at a time.

What’s on Your Mind?

Week 1: What’s on Your Mind?

If you’re anything like me, you know that it’s hard to stay focused long enough to pull a single thought together – there’s always something going on. Between the television, radio, social media, or those blasted text message tones (phone calls are rare these days) going off every five minutes, there’s hardly enough time to finish a complete thought. Before you know it, you’re at the end of the day only to realize that a big part of your day was unproductive. Enough already! In order to accomplish the goals you have set for 2016, you will have to focus.

Setting a priority list will help you to accomplish this. At the beginning of each day, spend some quiet time asking yourself a couple of questions: What do I want to accomplish; and what will it take for me to accomplish it? It’s important to do this at the start of the day because trust me; as you head out – distractions will be waiting to greet you. But, here’s a little secret, when you are ahead of your distractions, you maintain control of how you will respond to them.

One of my favorite scriptures is found in 1 Corinthians 10:13 – “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it].” It’s important to note that distractions are only temptations to pull you away from the goals you have set out to accomplish in your life.

Here is my challenge to you:
I challenge you to think about what you are thinking about. The next time you’re tempted to waste your precious time on things that are not lined up with the goals you have set to accomplish for your day, resist the temptation.

Journaling assignment:
At the end of each day, journal your progress and take note of anything that interrupted your focus to reach your goal. You cannot conquer what you won’t confront. Don’t forget to leave your comments, I’d love to hear from you!

Until next time…

Renee

Surviving the Holidays without Your Loved One

Hello Fierce Butterfly!

Ever since my 19 year old son passed away on October 31, 2011, life has not been the same. Every year, Trevin found a way to make sure he presented me with a Christmas gift. Rather it was a hand-made Christmas card or a card bought from a store, he took pride in presenting it with love. Even though I know it’s not going to happen, I still look for that card or gift.

I woke up this morning thinking about a group of parents I’ve become a part of called the Miami Dade Parents of Murdered Kids and knowing that some of them are spending their very first Christmas without their loved one. As I reflect on my first Christmas without Trevin, I’m reminded of the dark cloud that hovered over me and the heaviness of my heart which felt as if it was breaking into pieces inside of me – I cried every hour of that day. The overwhelming thoughts of wanting to hear his voice and to hold him in my arms crippled me to the point where I didn’t want to get out of bed. The anger I felt towards those who took the life of someone so dear to me taunted my very being. Depression held me so tight that I couldn’t appreciate those who thought enough to call, text, or to stop by to let me know they were thinking about me. I covered myself so tightly under my covers to the point where it was hard for me to move around in the bed. Here I am four years later – although the sadness of missing him is still there, I am able to cope a lot better with missing him. missing

I would like to share a few tips with you on how I went from crying uncontrollably to coping with the holidays without him.

Allow yourself to miss your loved one – You have experienced a great loss in your life and to have someone who has been a part of your life and is no longer there leaves a huge gap. You have every right to experience every emotion that’s associated with a loss. Cry, be sad, be angry, be depressed, and feel lonely… You have a right to miss your loved one.

Don’t stay stuck in the rut – Would your loved one want you to give up on life? I think not. Allow the memory of your loved one to be your biggest cheerleader! Hear them cheering you on and encouraging you to remember and embrace the times you have shared together. Hear them cheering you to run on and to live a happy life. Hear them giving you permission to smile again.

Embrace the ones that are still here with you – Don’t overlook your loved ones that are still here. You want to show them that they too are just as precious in your life and you are glad to have them around.

Remember, healing takes time and cannot be rushed, so give yourself time to heal and embrace the memories.

Blessings to you during this holiday season!

Renee

PS – Hey, check your local listings and tune in on New Year’s Day to watch the 127th Rose Parade where my son, Trevin, along with other organ donor honorees will be honored on the Donate Life Float. Meet all of this year’s Donate Life Rose Parade Float Floragraph honorees at http://bit.ly/2016Floragraphs.

Sponsored by Life Alliance Organ Recovery Agency

TOOLS FOR LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE!

Happy Wednesday Fierce Butterflies!

If you are not satisfied with the life you live, you can change that by living your life on purpose. When you make a decision to take action and live your life on purpose-you will begin to finally live the life you want to live.

Here are a few tools to help you get started:

1. You get to decide how you want to live your life.

It is up to you to do what you want with the life you want to live. You must set goals and work towards them in order to live the life you envision. If you can dream it, you can have it.

kj2. Learn the lessons life has to offer.

Everything that happens to you is to teach you a lesson. Don’t get caught-up in the experience, rather learn the lesson. Otherwise, the experience just may keep repeating itself.

3. Forgive yourself.

Dwelling on past decisions only stagnates your progress in life. Understand that you cannot change what has already happened – forgive yourself, let it go, and move forward.

4. Don’t give up!

Times will get hard in life, but you are not alone. You must remember that tough times don’t last always, but with a will and determination, you can get past whatever comes your way.

Challenge:

Challenge yourself to live your life on purpose.

Blessings,

Renee

 

 

21 Days of Inspiration

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Hello Fierce Butterflies!

I thought I’d throw in a little twist to how I normally share inspiration to you all. Instead of the day-to-day posts on social media, I am challenging you to participate along with me.

Take some time to sit back, relax, and invest in yourself. That’s right, this challenge is all about you! The goal is to focus on some things that really matter for staying motivated. Focusing on the small stuff each day can be a great way to a lasting change.

Join the challenge and be sure to let us know how you are doing by using #inspirationthroughpurpose.

Day 1. Start a journal.
Day 2. What is your favorite quote? Write it. Read it. Say it out loud.
Day 3. Name seven places you want to visit.
Day 4. Create a bucket list.
Day 5. Post a picture of something that’s on your bucket list.
Day 6. Write a letter to someone.
Day 7. Name at least three of your pet peeves.
Day 8. Think about where you see yourself five years from now, write it down.
Day 9. Smile at a stranger.
Day 10. Set a goal this week and stick to it.
Day 11. Post a picture of something that makes you smile.
Day 12. Post a picture of who or what inspires you.
Day 13. Laugh out loud.
Day 14. Read an inspirational book.
Day 15. Meditate for at least 15 minutes.
Day 16. Name three things you are grateful for.
Day 17. Name a short-term personal goal.
Day 18. Take deep breaths.
Day 19. Do something you know you’ll be great at.
Day 20. Read your bible.
Day 21. Encourage someone.

Blessings,

Renee