Be Careful Where You Pitch Your Tent: Not Everyone Wants to See You Win!

Every now and then, I like to replay some of the past happenings in my life (good and bad); for the purpose of grabbing a few good lessons that I can apply for future use. Now, I must tell you, sometimes I want to give myself a good ole butt kicking (a hard side eye right about here), because as I look back, I could have avoided a big number of those hard bumps along the way. Yeah, I hear you, all things work together for our good – true, but if we are honest with ourselves, if we would have followed our instincts and applied Godly wisdom, things would have went a lot smoother for us.

Does this sound familiar to you, “Get it where you fit in”? For me, it became so familiar; I adopted it as my motto when wanting to connect with the “right” crowd. I dove right in with my eyes wide-shut and with my thinking cap in the off position. I didn’t take the time to pray and ask God for His guidance – if I did; I didn’t stick around long enough to receive His response. Here’s a truth, my mind was made up before I prayed, (SMH!) As a result, I connected with people who didn’t like me in the first place and did not want to see me win. Like in the story of Joseph, Genesis 37:5, once I told them my dreams, all hell broke loose. They stopped speaking and then made up lies to make themselves look innocent as to why the relationship was severed. They no longer wanted me around. The word of the streets was, “I thought I was better than them”. So, there I went with my head held low and asking God why.

I thought to myself, “That devil is so busy!” Hold your seat right here! Well, I was wrong for putting it on the devil – he’s not the one who pitched the tent in the first place. Wrong crowd, wrong connections, and wrong motives…The lesson for me is clear: be careful where you pitch your tents.

Here are some important questions to ask when you’re connecting with the “crowd”: Do we support one another? Do we push one another past our comfort zone? Do we hold one another accountable for the goals we’ve set? Do we want to see one another win?

Here is my challenge to you:

Pray and ask God to lead you to your divine connections and allow Him to lead.

Until next time…


What’s on Your Mind?

Week 1: What’s on Your Mind?

If you’re anything like me, you know that it’s hard to stay focused long enough to pull a single thought together – there’s always something going on. Between the television, radio, social media, or those blasted text message tones (phone calls are rare these days) going off every five minutes, there’s hardly enough time to finish a complete thought. Before you know it, you’re at the end of the day only to realize that a big part of your day was unproductive. Enough already! In order to accomplish the goals you have set for 2016, you will have to focus.

Setting a priority list will help you to accomplish this. At the beginning of each day, spend some quiet time asking yourself a couple of questions: What do I want to accomplish; and what will it take for me to accomplish it? It’s important to do this at the start of the day because trust me; as you head out – distractions will be waiting to greet you. But, here’s a little secret, when you are ahead of your distractions, you maintain control of how you will respond to them.

One of my favorite scriptures is found in 1 Corinthians 10:13 – “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it].” It’s important to note that distractions are only temptations to pull you away from the goals you have set out to accomplish in your life.

Here is my challenge to you:
I challenge you to think about what you are thinking about. The next time you’re tempted to waste your precious time on things that are not lined up with the goals you have set to accomplish for your day, resist the temptation.

Journaling assignment:
At the end of each day, journal your progress and take note of anything that interrupted your focus to reach your goal. You cannot conquer what you won’t confront. Don’t forget to leave your comments, I’d love to hear from you!

Until next time…