Merry Christmas!!!

Greetings Fierce Butterfly!

If you celebrate Christmas, I indeed want to use this moment to wish you a VERY Merry Christmas.

Many are sharing gifts, spreading love, and spending time with their families – All of the great things that make this holiday even more special.

As for me, my plans are nice and simple. I’m cooking up some good ole cabbage, yams, yellow rice, and baked chicken… No sweets for me this go round. I’m putting some final touches on a few BIG plans for 2016 and a little relaxation. As always, I do plan on my daughter and grand kids to  stop by to crash the party – no worries, it’s always the highlight of  my day. Wooohooooo!!!!!

Noxmas matter what your plans are, I hope this day bring you lots of love, joy, happiness, and peace. Oh yeah, and some nice gifts too. But remember, at the end of the day the greatest gift of all is His presence.

 

Thanks for allowing me interrupt your celebration to send you a warm wish of blessings on this Christmas day.

Much love,

Renee

Surviving the Holidays without Your Loved One

Hello Fierce Butterfly!

Ever since my 19 year old son passed away on October 31, 2011, life has not been the same. Every year, Trevin found a way to make sure he presented me with a Christmas gift. Rather it was a hand-made Christmas card or a card bought from a store, he took pride in presenting it with love. Even though I know it’s not going to happen, I still look for that card or gift.

I woke up this morning thinking about a group of parents I’ve become a part of called the Miami Dade Parents of Murdered Kids and knowing that some of them are spending their very first Christmas without their loved one. As I reflect on my first Christmas without Trevin, I’m reminded of the dark cloud that hovered over me and the heaviness of my heart which felt as if it was breaking into pieces inside of me – I cried every hour of that day. The overwhelming thoughts of wanting to hear his voice and to hold him in my arms crippled me to the point where I didn’t want to get out of bed. The anger I felt towards those who took the life of someone so dear to me taunted my very being. Depression held me so tight that I couldn’t appreciate those who thought enough to call, text, or to stop by to let me know they were thinking about me. I covered myself so tightly under my covers to the point where it was hard for me to move around in the bed. Here I am four years later – although the sadness of missing him is still there, I am able to cope a lot better with missing him. missing

I would like to share a few tips with you on how I went from crying uncontrollably to coping with the holidays without him.

Allow yourself to miss your loved one – You have experienced a great loss in your life and to have someone who has been a part of your life and is no longer there leaves a huge gap. You have every right to experience every emotion that’s associated with a loss. Cry, be sad, be angry, be depressed, and feel lonely… You have a right to miss your loved one.

Don’t stay stuck in the rut – Would your loved one want you to give up on life? I think not. Allow the memory of your loved one to be your biggest cheerleader! Hear them cheering you on and encouraging you to remember and embrace the times you have shared together. Hear them cheering you to run on and to live a happy life. Hear them giving you permission to smile again.

Embrace the ones that are still here with you – Don’t overlook your loved ones that are still here. You want to show them that they too are just as precious in your life and you are glad to have them around.

Remember, healing takes time and cannot be rushed, so give yourself time to heal and embrace the memories.

Blessings to you during this holiday season!

Renee

PS – Hey, check your local listings and tune in on New Year’s Day to watch the 127th Rose Parade where my son, Trevin, along with other organ donor honorees will be honored on the Donate Life Float. Meet all of this year’s Donate Life Rose Parade Float Floragraph honorees at http://bit.ly/2016Floragraphs.

Sponsored by Life Alliance Organ Recovery Agency

I’M GOING TO CALI!

WOOHOOOO!!! Hold on to your seat Fierce Butterfly… I’m headed to the Rose Parade in Pasadena, CA in honor of my son. Yeah baby yeah (in my Austin Powers voice)!

Can you tell how excited I am to have gotten that call? This is huge! Every year, Life Alliance Organ Recovery Agency chooses a Donor Family to be represented in the Parade.  I can’t remember every word of that phone call, but, I hung on to this, “Mrs. Jones, IT’S YOUR TIME!” Yayyyy!!!!! My family and I will be there, no doubt, with tears in our eyes, but also feeling proud that we made a decision to turn our tragedy into purpose. I can’t wait to see his face on the Donate Life Float!

Stay tuned, because I will be sharing my count-down to California as the time approaches.

Oh yeah, did you hear the buzz? My new release, “And the Beat Goes On” will be out on October 31, 2015. Why then? That will be the four year anniversary of Trevin’s passing and what better date to share his amazing story. No worries, you will have a chance to pre-order your copy in just a few weeks.Blacky

Well, until later – Live, Laugh, and Love on purpose!

Blessings,

Renee

 

TOOLS FOR LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE!

Happy Wednesday Fierce Butterflies!

If you are not satisfied with the life you live, you can change that by living your life on purpose. When you make a decision to take action and live your life on purpose-you will begin to finally live the life you want to live.

Here are a few tools to help you get started:

1. You get to decide how you want to live your life.

It is up to you to do what you want with the life you want to live. You must set goals and work towards them in order to live the life you envision. If you can dream it, you can have it.

kj2. Learn the lessons life has to offer.

Everything that happens to you is to teach you a lesson. Don’t get caught-up in the experience, rather learn the lesson. Otherwise, the experience just may keep repeating itself.

3. Forgive yourself.

Dwelling on past decisions only stagnates your progress in life. Understand that you cannot change what has already happened – forgive yourself, let it go, and move forward.

4. Don’t give up!

Times will get hard in life, but you are not alone. You must remember that tough times don’t last always, but with a will and determination, you can get past whatever comes your way.

Challenge:

Challenge yourself to live your life on purpose.

Blessings,

Renee

 

 

21 Days of Inspiration

InspirationChallenge

Hello Fierce Butterflies!

I thought I’d throw in a little twist to how I normally share inspiration to you all. Instead of the day-to-day posts on social media, I am challenging you to participate along with me.

Take some time to sit back, relax, and invest in yourself. That’s right, this challenge is all about you! The goal is to focus on some things that really matter for staying motivated. Focusing on the small stuff each day can be a great way to a lasting change.

Join the challenge and be sure to let us know how you are doing by using #inspirationthroughpurpose.

Day 1. Start a journal.
Day 2. What is your favorite quote? Write it. Read it. Say it out loud.
Day 3. Name seven places you want to visit.
Day 4. Create a bucket list.
Day 5. Post a picture of something that’s on your bucket list.
Day 6. Write a letter to someone.
Day 7. Name at least three of your pet peeves.
Day 8. Think about where you see yourself five years from now, write it down.
Day 9. Smile at a stranger.
Day 10. Set a goal this week and stick to it.
Day 11. Post a picture of something that makes you smile.
Day 12. Post a picture of who or what inspires you.
Day 13. Laugh out loud.
Day 14. Read an inspirational book.
Day 15. Meditate for at least 15 minutes.
Day 16. Name three things you are grateful for.
Day 17. Name a short-term personal goal.
Day 18. Take deep breaths.
Day 19. Do something you know you’ll be great at.
Day 20. Read your bible.
Day 21. Encourage someone.

Blessings,

Renee

Register to be a donor today!

How to register to be an organ, eye and tissue donor

There are a number of ways to register to be a donor:

You can register on-line by going to www.DonateLifeFlorida.org. This only takes a few minutes.

You can also register to be a donor through the Department of Motor Vehicles. If you live in a county where driver’s licenses and state ID’s are issued by the Tax Collector, it is also possible to register when you visit a local office.

If you would like to fill out a paper registration, please call 1-800-232-2892 and one will be mailed to you.

When you register, do not forget to share the good news with family and friends.