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Black Love!

Allow me to take a moment to chat with all of my Black Butterflies. Black Butterfly

When are we going to get it? When will enough be enough?  Lately, I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster with all of the racial issues that has been on the rise over the past few years. Especially, when it comes to the, “Stand your ground” law. The cases that are highlighted in the media should be cut and dry and guilty on all charges.  There has been no justice and as a mother of a murdered son, I will continue to pray for the families of KiJuan Byrd, Trayvon Martin, Jordan Davis and all others that has experienced this great pain of losing a child.

My issues here are coming from a different place and I have a question to ask my black people.  When are we going to stand our ground and love, respect and support one another?  Even the word of God shares with us that a house divided against itself, that house cannot stand (Mark 3:25).  So, why are we looking for respect from others when we are not giving it to ourselves. When we think about how other nationalities are treated in this country, our main focus becomes, we are being treated unfairly.  The truth is that the other nationalities stick together and if you come against one, you will have to come against them all.  When they do wrong against us, they don’t think twice about their consequences because they know that we will jump on the bandwagon and rise up for the moment, but then back to cutting one another down after the smoke has cleared.  Now, calm down because I know this does not apply to all of us, but we must admit that we still have a ways to go and it should start and end with us.

We should not look for something from others that we are not willing to give to ourselves.  Love! Respect! Support!

Renee

 

 

Don’t Be A Storm Chaser!

What’s up Butterflies?

I was just sitting here and thinking to myself, some of us sit in front of the television and watch Storm Chasers chase after tornadoes and fly in the eye of hurricanes and we think to ourselves, they must be crazy.  But, in life drama is as dangerous as a storm and some of us chase it every day.

Image21-400x400You all know the saying, “Don’t start no drama and it won’t be no drama.” Well, it is evident that not everyone has gotten that memo because there is drama everywhere.  Drama in the church. Drama in the office. Drama in the home. Heck, there’s even drama on social media.

It takes two elements to set the drama scene: A running mouth of other people’s business; and a listening ear to gossip.  I know, I get it because there are some things that go down in our lives as well as in the lives of others that just make us want to run and tell it. But, that doesn’t make it right.

When jumping in other people’s business, half the time we are making assumptions about the situation and we all know that assumptions make a fool out of the one who is assuming.  The other half of the time, we are listening to what others say they heard someone else say. Do you see how crazy that is? The rules are simple, yet many of us make it complicated.  If we have nothing good to say, then we need keep it moving.  Think about it, when you are dealing with drama in your life you want compassion and prayer, not more drama.

So, how do we fix this?  If we are not there to make the situation better for others then we need to stay out of it.  Also, we need to avoid the drama queens.   Those are the ones who do nothing but look for drama and when they can’t find it, they create it.  They are the first ones to deliver bad news and the last ones to share the good news.  We all have enough to deal with in our own lives and to be caught up in others people’s business makes no sense.

Since we all can use help in this area, join me in asking the Lord to help us to be a better person and stay drama free.  It will free us to live a happier and more productive life.

#AskRenee

 

Shattered Dreams!

imageWhat’s up Butterflies?

Have you ever had to deal with people who do nothing but drain you and keep you frustrated, even when you’re trying to help them? Yeah, I’m sure you have. I’m coming to understand, they are not the problem, we are.

It’s okay for us to help and support others, but if we have to chase them down, beg and plead to support them, then we need to move on.

I was speaking with someone not long ago and I asked, “Do you believe in me?” I thought I was going to get a simple reply, but in return they turned the table on me. They responded, “Of course I believe in you, but it sounds like you’ve lost confidence in yourself.” What? Now, how was I to be mad at that when I knew it was the truth.

You see, for the past two years I’ve been wasting time, money and energy on things and people that I was supporting but was not supporting me. What I didn’t realize is that it had started affecting my confidence. I figured, since I kept hitting a brick wall then the problem had to be with me and my vision. Yeah, for a quick minute I became that girl who allowed others to rain on my parade… I’m back (lol) and now stronger than ever.

Who are you around? Who are you sharing your dreams with? Who are you supporting? Who is supporting you? I tell you Butterflies, you better ask these questions and get them answered up front because it will save you lots of time, money and energy. #AskRenee! But most importantly, it will keep you moving in the right direction, eliminate a lot of frustrations as well as keep your confidence level up. If you haven’t done so in a while, pull out your radar, do a crowd check and don’t be afraid to zap those dream snatchers out of your way and move on. When you do that, you’ll make room to attract the motivational movers and your true supporters around you.

Nope, I’m not mad nor am I rambling, I’m just keeping it real, letting go of the experiences and sharing my lessons.

Until the next time have faith, believe in yourself and keep your mind right.

Renee